Mother’s Day Meditation
By: Rev. Melanie Kim-Hamill

Mother’s Day is a beautifully complicated celebration. It is an occasion to remember our mothers and the important mother figures in our lives on the one hand, but fraught with unmet expectations and grief on the other.  What if your mom isn’t here any longer? What if the child that made you a mom is no longer here? What if you were abandoned by your mother? What if your mom was an addict? What if you are estranged from your mother, wishing you weren’t? What if your desire to carry your own child was never realized for any number of reasons? See, complicated.  It’s tempting to just gloss over the hard bits and pretend it’s only a happy day. But that’s just not honest. I think that when we can name the duality that is present, we can actually appreciate the sentiment of the day in all its fullness. Have you heard of a Blue Christmas worship service? This worship service is traditionally held on or around the longest night of the year, which falls on or about December 21, the Winter Solstice. On this day, some churches hold a service that honors people that have lost loved ones and are experiencing grief. The worship often includes opportunities for expression of grief and pain as well as an opportunity to focus on the promise of hope. What I love about this worship service is that it creates space for both the joy of the Christmas season and recognizes how for many, it is a dark time. We are often fearful of darkness. My new friend Heather is doing a really cool thing on the west coast by opening up much needed space in the Christian community to explore and question. She’s an artist and an author and has a soft spot in her heart for the Anxious Christian. She says this about darkness “darkness is an invitation from God to recognize that we are human beings who find important information from God in our brokenness and struggle.”
There is room for the bright and joyful celebration and the darkness of grief to cohabitate. We acknowledge that Mother’s Day is a day of celebrating the maternal love that makes this world go round. This mama love is one of God’s greatest expressions of God’s love to us. Let’s hold onto that nurturing, sacrificing, giving, healing, warm love even if, no, especially if this day is hard.

Scripture Reading: 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Questions:

  1. How did your mother or any mother figure in your life make you feel loved?
  2. What wounds exists?
  3. How does God heal those wounds for you?
  4. How do you heal the world around you with hope?

Prayer:
Creator, you formed us in our mothers’ wombs and gave us life. You gave each of us a place in your creation to expand love. Today, we honor the women in our lives who shape us, teach us, raise us, encourage us, protect us, see us, and love us. Thank you for first loving us so that we might be motherly to this hurting world. In the name of the One who was born unto us through Mary, Amen.