I have a friend who promised to do something for me and did not follow through. I never heard back – zilch, nada, diddly-squat, absolutely nothing from him. Thankfully, it was insignificant and not even close to a big deal but still it was a bit disappointing. So, I sat on my every needed thinking chair with the notion of disappointment. Merriam-Webster defines disappoint as “to fail to meet the expectation or hope of…” Someone once said, “Expectation is the root of all heartache.” When we experience disappointment, our hopes and expectations aren’t meshed with reality. My friend disappointing me will not make an ounce of a difference but there are some disappointments that can change our lives. Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries in Harvard Business Review writes “To deal with disappointment constructively, don’t let it deteriorate into apathy and depression. Sustained negative rumination is not a prescription for change. When we become preoccupied by bad news, we lose sight of what is right in our lives and in the world around us. We only internalize feelings of sadness and anger. Hanging on to these feelings can result in us unconsciously making them a part of our identity.” In spite of being disappointed my challenge (or is it an invitation and perhaps yours as well) is not to let resentment take root within me. It’s been said “disappointment is inevitable, being discouraged is always a choice.”
Scripture Reading: Isaiah 40:8
“Have you not known? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable…”
What do you do with disappointment?
What makes you grow weary?
For you what is a healthy prescription for change?
Prayer: Holy God, fill me with your goodness. When disappointment occurs don’t let resentment find a home within me, rather lead me to find a more helpful and healthy way to live. Amen.