The word of the day is “gaucherie” (which I thought was the old spelling of the word grocery) but how I was mistaken. Gaucherie means “awkward, embarrassing, or unsophisticated ways.” Now, I only mention this because it’s Labor Day and that means you are not supposed to wear white until next Memorial Day. Well, you can chuckle but in the Wismer household proper attire is valued (if you look good – you feel good). And don’t forget the “good old days” when proper etiquette was indicative of one’s social standing. One fashion website wrote: “White was for weddings and resort wear, not dinner parties in the fall. Of course, it could get extremely hot in September, and wearing white might make the most sense, but if you wanted to be appropriately attired you just did not dress in white.” Without much effort I discovered that wearing white during non-summer days was also code. Ultimately, it was a visible way to determine who were acceptable and who were unacceptable. It showed the “in” crowd and the “out” crowd.
I’ve been pondering… how do I determine and then decide those who are acceptable and those who are not. Surely, I use a means of judgment to make a calculation. What code do I use? Theologically, that’s easy. I know what words the “unacceptable” use and what words we, the “acceptables” (not a word – I know) utilize. Politically, I have clarity as well and I’ll own my entrenchment but I tend to be semi- reasonable or at least work trying to be so.
Time for my thinking chair with the questions – What does it mean to be acceptable and what does it mean to be unacceptable? How do I tell the difference and can I, will I, and do I accept those who are unacceptable?
Scripture Reading: Colossians 3:12-14
“As God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience. Bear with one another and, if anyone has a complaint against another, forgive each other; just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.”
How are you holy?
How do you judge one’s acceptability?
What character traits are your strengths?
Prayer: Holy God, help me not to judge but rather be clothed in your goodness. Let me be the kind of a person who binds people together. Amen.
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